Motherhood. You're Doing it Wrong. What My Journey as a Postpartum Nurse Taught Me

Motherhood. You're Doing it Wrong. What My Journey as a Postpartum Nurse Taught Me

Does it fee like whatever decision you make you're being ridiculed about your choices in pregnancy, childbirth, and childhood development?  As a nurse I new moms ridiculed for their decisions about their own bodies and their own children.  When did we stop supporting each other.  My dear friend Lina Acosta Sandal, Director at The Nest: Emotional Wellness Center always says, given the information, parents always make the right decision for their children; and I truly believe this. 

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My Birth Story: Homebirth And Hospital Part II - At The Hospital

My Birth Story: Homebirth And Hospital Part II -  At The Hospital

Making the choice to have a home birth is not the obvious choice.  It is not an easy choice.  It is not a widely accepted choice.  And it can be heartbreaking when that plan doesn’t come to fruition.  For me, who truly believed that a home birth was the best thing for my family, I made an equally difficult decision to leave 30 hours of labor at home and go to the hospital for an unknown outcome.  I mean, I knew it was a possibility to go to the hospital and I was not opposed to that, but I honestly thought that wouldn’t happen.  

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The Hardest Part About Breastfeeding

The Hardest Part About Breastfeeding

In this really quick video I share with you the hardest part about the early days of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is not complicated. NO! I'm sorry. I don't mean to step on toes or make you feel bad. Like any relationship, it has ups and downs but the basics are simple. The true problem is the lack of the RIGHT information and support. With that, you can tackle the hardest part of breastfeeding which I explain in this video. 

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Free Breastfeeding Class

Free Breastfeeding Class

Breastfeeding is demanding but it's not complicated. Sounds crazy but hear me out. The reason why
so many women such as myself struggle with breastfeeding I because there are too many booby
traps set up for us to fail!

If you had all the right information and you were supported could you do it and enjoy the journey? Yes and YES!

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Cesareans Effect on Breastfeeding

Cesareans Effect on Breastfeeding

I received an email a few days ago by a third time mom. She was concerned about the amount of colostroum she was producing. In this quick video blog, I share how a cesarean can delay milk production. 

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My Birth Story: Homebirth And Hospital Part I - At Home

My Birth Story: Homebirth And Hospital Part I - At Home

Now it was almost 4am, baby still in the same place. Her heartrate was fine, but I wasn’t. I just felt her hitting me but not coming out. And the back pain was nothing anyone told me about in my birthing class. I wanted to be superhuman… I wanted more than anything to have a natural birth in the comfort of my home…. to prove to everyone that it was possible… to give my baby the most natural entrance into this world… I had made it 30 hours when my mother begged me to go to the hospital, where I knew they would most likely make me have a c-section. My husband was looking to me for answers, desperate to take away my pain but willing to support my choice. The hired team wanted me to keep pushing. I had to go deep down and pray for an answer...

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Lactation Cookies. Do They Work?

Lactation Cookies. Do They Work?

So you've decided you want to nurse! Congratulations.   You're making an amazing choice. You know all the benefits so there's no need give you the rundown. Whether you've already hit a wall or you're just planning in advance, you may be questioning whether lactation cookies can offer a buffer to low milk supplies.  This is my opinion on the matter:  I soundly believe that covering the basics will ensure your supply will match your baby's need. 

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5 Ways to Relax So You Can Have A More Natural, Less Medicated Birth Experience

5 Ways to Relax So You Can Have A More Natural, Less Medicated Birth Experience

Women have given birth since the beginning of time, and yet there is so much fear regarding it. Society offers women the chance to choose the way they want to give birth, and therefore it all comes down to decisions. For many, they have chosen a medicated route as this is now seen as normal birth; hospital, IVs, epidurals and elected cesarean sections. But is this a safer alternative? A major contribution to the fear of childbirth is caused by its dramatization. Every time we see a women giving birth she’s crazed and deranged. She is cursing and screaming obscenities at her poor husband and unable to cope with the pain. I actually have to chuckle a little. Birth does not have to be anything like that. Pain yes. Torture no.

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5 Ways Dads Help Moms with Breastfeeding

5 Ways Dads Help Moms with Breastfeeding

It’s the middle of the night, your newborn if hungry. If you’re not co-sleeping (highly recommend you do), one really helpful thing dads can do is bring baby to mom. If he’s fussy, calming him and soothing him with make it easier for her to feed him.  It’s very difficult to feed your baby while they are screaming. OK try it. Scream and yell and try to get food to stay in your mouth long enough to eat. See….

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Wait 'Til 38

Wait 'Til 38

For many moms that desire to exclusively breastfeed, or just want their milk to be the first food their babies eat, new protocols for babies at risk may interfere with your ability to do so. There's tons of compelling information highlighting the benefits of  waiting for labor to start on its own or waiting until full term to induce. Full term is now considered 38 to 42 weeks.  Now with new hypoglycemia protocols, there may be an additional reason to wait. Hypoglycemia is a term used to describe low blood sugar. Severe hypoglycemia can cause bodily injury, coma, and death.  How does this relate to waiting until 38 weeks?

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The Real Paradigm of Cervical Dilation Part 1: Language

The Real Paradigm of Cervical Dilation Part 1: Language

......the language many doctors and nurses use in delivery rooms. There is an attitude of mom's body not doing enough. There's no account for how quickly things can change and little consideration for the reality that labor can take time and patience (not just for mom and dad, but patience of the medical staff too). 

Why must we change the way we measure dilation? Because it can be defeating for mom to hear that she is ONLY at 7 cm. Because it makes dads or partners nervous that this much time has gone by with seemingly little change. Because it can lead to medically unnecessary c-sections.

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The No-Birth Plan Birth Plan

The No-Birth Plan Birth Plan

As a doula, I almost always suggest a birth preference conversation and loose plan for parents-to-be during a prenatal meeting. And while I believe this is an effective tool for those who want to learn all about the medical terms and procedures associated with birth, sometimes the birth preferences, when written down and presented as a rigid document, actually pose a challenge post delivery. Imagine things don't go in the way you planned for, disappointment in yourself and distrust in your body are heavy burdens to carry, aren't they?

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Pregnancy With Styles Part 1 Accepting Motherhood Without Fear

Pregnancy With Styles Part 1 Accepting Motherhood Without Fear

There are certain experiences that have left lasting impressions in my subconscious mind.   Many of my friends got pregnant during or soon after high school.  They struggled financially and emotionally during pregnancy.  My mother lost her first-born soon after a natural birth, and had a miscarriage at 6 months during another pregnancy.  My sister had her children by C-Section after long, tiring deliveries, the last one left her in the hospital for days because a doctor nicked her during surgery.  Movies have told us the experience of giving birth is a dramatic and often traumatic experience.  Super Nanny makes me feel like kids are unruly and I need someone like her to get parenting right.   Friends and Family constantly tell me “your life will never be the same!”  GEEEEEEEZ! 

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How to Prepare for Natural Childbirth

How to Prepare for Natural Childbirth

Women have given birth for since the beginning of time, and yet there is so much fear regarding it. Society offers women the chance to choose the way they want to give birth, and therefore it all comes down to decisions. For many, they have chosen a medicated route as this is now seen as normal birth; hospital, IVs, epidurals and elected cesarean sections. But is this a safer alternative? A major contribution to the fear of childbirth is caused by its dramatization. Every time we see a women giving birth she’s crazed and deranged. She is cursing and screaming obscenities at her poor husband and unable to cope with the pain. I actually have to chuckle a little. Birth does not have to be anything like that. Pain yes. Torture no. If you’re experiencing anxiety constantly, you can actually stall the progress of your labor.  There are some major hormones at work here. The hormone your body needs in order for you to dilate is in EXACT opposition to the hormone released when you’re stressed.  You’re actually fighting your body as it is trying to open up! 

When I was pregnant, I wanted to attempt a natural childbirth and I remember how afraid I was. I searched the South Florida landscape and found nothing regarding natural childbirth. I needed classes, workshops, and support groups to learn more. Finding nothing, I did what most women did; I delivered in a hospital on my back. My son’s birth story (thank God) is not a traumatic or horrific one. But at the end of the day it wasn’t what I wanted and I didn’t even a say in the matter because I found a lack of choses. This set me on my current path to find alternatives. If a women wants to have a natural childbirth, prep work, practice, has to be done in advance. After all, you wouldn’t strap on your Nike’s one day and decide to run a marathon. At least I hope not.  There are a few necessary steps that need to be taken in consideration whenever you want to prepare for childbirth, steps that I wasn’t aware of.  Here are list of some techniques you can begin practicing now to see you through labor.

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Essential Oils During Pregnancy

Essential Oils During Pregnancy

There is some division in regards to the use of essential oils during pregnancy. Unlike other oils such as coconut and olive which not only feel good but are hydrating to your skin, essential oils have very small molecules allowing it to be easily absorbed by your skin.  Essential oils can be applied directly to the skin, diffused, or taken internally.  It's recommended to use 100% pure therapeutic-grade essential oils to minimize risk.  With that being said, pure oils are costly! Pure essential oils are SUPER concentrated. It takes hundreds of pounds of a plant/fruit to create an essential oil. The upside, a single bottle can last 5 years.  Also, fragrance oils and essential oils are NOT the same thing. Fragrance oils are synthetic, even if it says natural synthetic.  Here is a list of some young living essential oils and their benefits and uses. 

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5 Tips for Proper Nutrition During Pregnancy

5 Tips for Proper Nutrition During Pregnancy

Proper nutrition during pregnancy is very important for your health as well as the baby's and you must think of what healthy foods to eat because you will need all the nourishment that you can get. Proper nutrition for you and the baby involves eating foods high in vitamins and minerals.

Here are 5 tips to getting proper nutrition during pregnancy



 

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