Why I Love RIE
I had the pleasure and opportunity to meet with Lisa Chariff Better over a Grande Vanilla Blonde Roast at Starbucks (have I ever mentioned how much I love Starbucks?). Lisa graciously invited me to observe her RIE (Resources for Infant Educators) Back Babies/Early Crawlers Class at Temple Beth Sholom. Upon arrival I didn't know what to expect. Lisa let me know that my role was to strictly observe and not interact with the infants. This was their time. RIE teaches parents that children NEED uninterrupted play time. Time to explore unguided, without direction. Just exploration. I agree!
Toys were arranged across the floor giving the babies ample room to explore once they were ready. Mommies began to arrive with their babies in carriers (LOVE this). Babies were placed in the middle of the room with mommy close by. Little by little as baby became more comfortable, mommies backed away. All the while completely engaged with their baby.
During one moment of play two infants (6-10 months) were very close to each other; almost confrontational. Now, the over-protective mother in me wanted to intervene. But what happened next was enlightening! What happened next? NOTHING! These infants were able to assess the situation, make decision (I think I'm over that toy, you can have it) and execute that decision all without a single cry.
Now this may seem minute, but this leads me to believe that as parents, we need to take a step back sometimes and allow children to figure it out on there own! Yes, of course if a child is in danger we should intervene. But the most of the time, that's simply not the case. By allowing our children the opportunity to figure it out on their own, we are fostering self-confidence and independence. Now, while I will never prescribe to one parenting style over another. I believe all of our children are different and we need to take cues from them. What may work for one, may not work for another. Miami has a great resource The Nest Miami. They can help you develop a unique parenting style based on your family. However, I do believe, RIE offers parents great tools; such as communication. We should talk to our babies more. They understand SO much more than we realize. Want to schedule a session? Contact Lisa.