5 Surprisingly Shocking Simple Tips for Having Twins
Having Twins will be the most precious gift life will give you. But once you recover from the initial shock of the news of having Twins, your mind will immediately start asking “how are we going to do this?”. As educators to expecting and new parents of Twins, we highly suggest 5 key points in order to make the transition easier for everyone.
Education & Preparation
Getting prepared for the new life that is coming and all the new adjustments, we encourage parents to become educated on all things Twins. The demands and responsibilities with Twins is doubled and preparing is key. We provide support, but also expertise from a fellow Twin Mom. The earlier you prepare, the more at ease you will be making your pregnancy healthier and more enjoyable by reducing stress.
Twin Love Concierge's 'Expecting Twins Class' will prepare you with everything from feeding, whether its breastfeeding or bottle or a combination of both to scheduling and routine from the moment you get home with babies for a smooth transition, to sleeping frequently asked questions. We will also help you get your home and nursery prepared to accommodate everyone comfortably to the gear that is a must and that you don’t need two of everything! Also preparing you on a Twin birth and the NICU.
Our ‘Breastfeeding Twins’ and ‘Twins & Sleep’ will go more in depth with best feeding practices and scheduling and routines to get everyone successfully feeding and sleeping.
We also highly suggest a CPR class to everyone that will look after babies, as this will add peace of mind to prepare in any unexpected situation.
We encourage that all the preparation be done by 30 weeks as over 50% of moms may be put on modified bedrest for the remainder of the pregnancy. Having your stroller and car seats are a must early on as well as their sleeping solutions. Everything else gear-wise can be done online!
It Takes a Village
This has never been more true until you have Multiples at home and you need all the help you can get.
Planning for family and friends to come over and help will make life with newborn Twins less overwhelming. Posting a list on the fridge of little tasks that family may tackle when they come over, will relieve some of the workload off new, exhausted, sleep-deprived parents!
If find you are not close to family and friends that are able to help, getting outside help that can come over a few days to help out in the mornings or afternoons to relieve mom for a bit may be beneficial. This will help immensely with feeling overwhelmed that you may not get to all the chores around the house plus tend to babies round the clock. This may only need to be for a bit in the beginning stages until you get your bearings.
Bond with Babies Individually
Although at the beginning this may be harder said than done, building those attachments early on can be so beneficial for Mom as well as for each baby. Planning for a little one-on-one with each baby doesn’t have to be long stretches of time. It may be a feeding, a cuddle moment, a baby wearing session and so on. For years to come they will feel like a unit vs 2 individual little beings, that it will become apparent that time with each one will build an incredible bond for each baby with each mom and dad.
Build your Mom Tribe
Making Twin mom friends may sound far-fetched with newborn babies in tow, that you may think ‘I will never leave the house to make friends’, but this can be done in baby steps.
From early on you may start doing this through FB support groups in your city as well as national groups where you will find amazing support through the comfort of your phone. But knowing someone is going through the same thing as you, will feel reassuring. Once babies get a bit older, seek out the Twins Club in your area and meet fellow Twin Moms. All it takes is one connection with another Twin Mom to share on your journey.
Be Easy on Yourself
This is so important as a new mom, but also as a new mom to TWO little beings. You may plan but it may not go as you thought it would. And this is with everything from delivery, to breastfeeding, to connecting with your babies, to feeling like yourself again, or being that wife, daughter, sister, or friend to your loved ones. Take it easy on yourself, it will all be a transition at first as you get your bearings. You are learning as you go, as well as for babies adapting to the outside world. Accept help from people around you with household chores, to help with babies, to help with meals, even to just watch them for you to take a shower or eat a meal. It’s all about taking it one day at a time until you are able to manage everything on your own. Embrace the beginning stages as hard as they may seem, soon enough it will be a distant memory and you’ll wish you could go back, even for a moment.